Rape is the most oftenly committed, least reported and least prosecuted serious crime in this country. Current statistics tell us that 1 in 3 women, 1 in 7 men will be the victim of a sexual assault sometime in their life. Less than 25% of all rapes are committed by a stranger.
Date rape (nonconsensual sex between people who have a social dating relationship) is a real danger for teenagers and young adults.
The survivor is often confused about whether she consented or not. The perpetrator often feels he is “entitled” to sex. Both attitudes are incorrect. Unless sex is fully consensual for both parties, it can be classified as rape.
The only valid consent is a verbal O.K. Any sign of unwillingness to continue or uncomfortableness with the activity should be taken as a NO. In an equal relationship, each person has the right to stop the activity at any time.
Rape is an act of violence using sex as a weapon. It is done out of anger. It is an act to control and dominate the other’s physical and emotional safety. It is not about sexual passions out of control or about how a woman looks or acts. It is generally a planned event.
Nothing ever gives you the right to force sex. It doesn’t make you cool or powerful or smart or popular. It just makes you a rapist. Remember NO means NO — every time.